JUST JANE: Today our agony aunt Jane O’Gorman is dealing with a new issue from a Daily Star reader who can’t understand why her man isn’t more interested in bedding her
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Hungry like the wolf
My boyfriend and I have had sex THREE times during the course of our eight month relationship.
We both agree we like and fancy each other. We text all the time – often sending each other X-rated images and saucy messages – but our physical dates are months apart.
I understand that he has a really important, well-paid job that takes him all over the place but there’s no spontaneity or urgency. I yearn for him to rip my clothes off and make me howl like a she-wolf.
We live fifty miles apart and, I recently, discovered, purely by chance that he had been in my neighbourhood with a client. But he didn’t call me or pop in because he says he was ‘too busy’.
Don’t you find that odd?
I’m in the slowest moving relationship ever and feel as though I’m climbing the wall with sexual frustration. At the moment we have a dirty weekend away booked for the 17th December, during which we plan to have sex for the fourth time – whoo hoo. But will it even happen?
Is he scared or is he avoiding me?
JANE SAYS: It could be that your boyfriend is shy and suffering from a lack of confidence and self-worth. Why don’t you take the lead and organise to go round to see him right now?
Ultimately, you’re both adults and unless one of you is proactive, then you’re never going to get anywhere.
Don’t put him under pressure to have sex, but if the spark or desire simply aren’t there, then have the courage to admit that you and he don’t click on a physical level. It sounds as if he has a busy life, but also, he has an answer for every occasion. Is that acceptable to you?
Could it be that you aren’t really suited and you’d be better off as friends? Perhaps he’s confused about his sexuality, enjoys stringing you along or has someone else… Don’t be blind to a number of upsetting possibilities.
Lazy oaf
My married sister loves to brand me ‘idle’. She’s busy with three kids. She rings every morning at 9am after school drop-off to hear what I’m doing. I tell her that I’m still in bed checking emails and she kicks off, calling me lazy and unmotivated.
I work from home and I’m fine. Why can’t she accept that I like to do things my own way?
JANE SAYS: You don’t have to justify your routine to anyone. We’re all getting through life the best we can. Your sister must hear that you will not be shamed.
Don’t feel guilty about knowing your own limits and don’t allow her to get under your skin either.
Insist the 9am calls stop – and agree that you’ll call her later in the day when it suits. She’s not you and you have your own life to lead.
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