JUST JANE: Today our agony aunt Jane O’Gorman is dealing with a new issue from a Daily Star reader who saw a different side to her horny bloke on holiday
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I pleasured a waiter in retaliation
Our recent holiday from hell started badly and went downhill from there. My bloke and I started fighting in the airport at 6am over how much he was drinking. Then he got stroppy because I refused to join the Mile High Club by having sex with him in the airplane toilet.
At the resort he left me for hours at a time to score fixes. Then, on our third day he bought back two girls to our room for a mini orgy. I threw them all out and retaliated by pleasuring a waiter behind some bins.
Now we’re back home and he’s accusing me of ruining everything by being boring and stuck up. He’s even suggested I financially compensate him because I didn’t provide the kind of edgy holiday experience he expected. How can we recover from this?
JANE SAYS: It’s very sad that your holiday was such a nightmare, but you and your guy clearly had very different expectations. I get the impression you craved a chilled, loved-up time while he was determined to throw caution to the wind and let rip. Now you’re back home and the friction continues.
It’s often said that we don’t really know someone until we’ve been on holiday with them. Call a truce. Tell him that you are exhausted and need to put the trip behind you. Can you and he admit that wires were crossed and start again. Would he be happier as a single guy? Is this where you say “adios”.
Family are in awe of my bloke
My parents worship my husband because he’s got money, power and influence. They enjoy being included in holidays and meals out. They think his brashness and rudeness are funny; that it’s just him ‘being a man’.
But I’m done with his swaggering and arrogance. I want a divorce.
Why should I stay with a man who is incapable of making me smile? The problem is that no one in my immediate family has ever divorced. But I fear my mum is more concerned about image than my peace of mind.
Any time I mention how unhappy I am she rants that I need to try harder. Do I? The irony is that my husband doesn’t like me much either.
JANE SAYS: Surely, it’s better that you and your husband part now before real resentment and bitterness set in.
Relations could get worse with growing frustration and even anger. Work with your husband in finding a mutually agreeable way forward. Maybe your family need to be kept out the equation until you’ve made some firm decisions?
Ultimately, they’re not you and need to understand that you won’t be held back simply to keep up appearances and maintain their social lives. Life is short. You know your own mind and realise that your marriage was a mistake.
Keep talking to your husband about a sensible way forward. He should be your only consideration right now.
Lights, cameras, action
My boyfriend is desperate for me to move in full time. I’m currently staying with him while I make my mind up. I work from home, while he does five days in the City. He insists the internal cameras are switched on all day long. I hate the idea of him watching me. He’s saying he’s all about safety but is this about control?
JANE SAYS: Trust your instincts and get out of there. If you don’t feel comfortable living with a man who is obsessed with monitoring your every move, then gather your stuff and make tracks.
Admittedly lots of people do have internal cameras in the home, but you are your own person and are entitled to call a halt if you don’t like the way he operates and treats you.
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